The 4 Practices

By Walter Bitner

When I read education articles or discussions of education practices on the internet, a theme that I constantly encounter is  Current trends in behavior modification theories and practices have promoted a widespread use of reward systems for social (as opposed to anti-social) behavior that is at odds with my own beliefs about education.

In 1998, our four-year old son was enrolled in a preschool program, and we learned from him one afternoon that at his (church sponsored) preschool they were paying the children for good behavior in play money and on Fridays, allowing the children who had accumulated some “cash” to spend it on toys or candy from the “store”.

My wife and I were shocked at what I still regard as a deeply cynical approach to the education of young children, and withdrew our son from that program immediately.

Over the years, I have observed methods like this being used with increasing frequency for “classroom management” with little or no regard for what programs like this actually teach children – only for the temporary results they bring for an orderly classroom environment.

These reward programs – no matter what they award: material items, food, stickers, badges in an app, etc. – are extrinsic motivation programs, and are based on the premise that children need to be bribed to behave well because they are neither able nor inclined to cooperate in the classroom activity for its own sake, or in the belief that creating a classroom environment that encourages intrinsic motivation is too difficult or time-consuming.

Now, I was a music teacher. My early experiences as a performing arts teacher in elementary schools instilled in me a belief that children naturally (with very few exceptions) love to sing and dance and make music, and that if I had trouble engaging my students in class, it was my fault, due to a poor preparation (lesson plan if you must), poor choice of content, an activity that was inappropriate, a poor “read” of the particular situation in class that day – in short, children instinctively wish to engage in musical activity and if they are inhibited in doing so in music class due by their own behavior or that of their peers, it is because the teacher is not being effective.

We all have days when we are not effective, of course – music teachers are human too! But generally speaking…

The Four Agreements

From 1999 -2003 I was the performing arts director at Carrollwood Day School (CDS), a private school near Tampa, Florida. At the time, CDS was a K-8 school with a preschool on a separate campus (it now includes a high school as well) and while I taught there, CDS won a national award for its Character Education program.

There were many aspects to this excellent program (still a vital part of the CDS education and philosophy) but one component that had a profound impact on my own classroom and teaching after I left CDS and found myself teaching in other environments was what were called the “Four Agreements”. These have nothing to do with the personal growth/self-improvement book published in 1997 by Don Miguel Ruiz, as far as I know. The Four Agreements were part of a proprietary methodology called Tribes Learning Communities that CDS teachers and administration had studied before I began teaching there and from whom they had assimilated some of their approach to character education.

These Four Agreements are:

• Attentive Listening
• Mutual Respect
• Appreciation (no put downs)
• Right to Pass (only used for non-academic discussions)

CDS still incorporates these Four Agreements as a core of their Character Education program: they call them the Essential Agreement.

I will always be grateful to my peers and mentors at CDS for insisting that teaching Ethics was an imperative for all teachers – even in Elementary and Middle School. The current educational climate treats teachers as merely purveyors of content with a shallow appreciation of the long-lasting impact teachers can have on students, and ultimately society.

How I Derived the Four Practices

After I moved to Nashville in 2003, I worked for nearly four years at a small private school that was struggling to establish itself. Most of the teachers were inexperienced, and reluctant to insist on behavioral guidelines for the students – it was an idealistic young school, and there was a strong idea among the faculty that imposing “rules” on the students would inhibit their “organic” or “natural” development.

However, it was clear to me after some months and many incidents of conflict and unruly behavior at this school that some kind of attempt to introduce the idea of social behavior be attempted, and I took the Four Agreements I had learned at Carrollwood Day School and adapted them to my new environment. Mutual Respect and Attentive Listening were perfectly realized principles, in my opinion, and so was Appreciations/No Put-Downs which I renamed, simply, Kindness. However, the Right to Pass I had always felt to be a speed bump when I taught these principles to students, and found that they chose to apply this principle most often in inappropriate situations. So I struck this from the list and replaced it with Best Effort, a fundamental value for any program attempting to teach excellence as a virtue worth pursuing, and the Four Practices were born.

I taught them to my classes and posted them on the wall, and some of my colleagues followed suit. For the last ten years of my teaching career – in the private school where I initiated them and in the public school I taught at afterwards – the Four Practices were an integral part of my students’ experience – they were included in my syllabus every year, posted on the wall of my classroom, and after I had learned the names of all my new students at the beginning of the school year, the Four Practices were the first thing I spoke about to every class, every year.

I would wager, that if one could survey all of the students that I taught in Nashville, and ask them to name Bitner’s Four Practices, the majority of them would give you a 100% accurate response. I referred to them in class, nearly every day, and they were posted on my classroom wall where everyone could see them, every day.

In the public high school environment especially, there is a big emphasis on classroom rules and disciplinary policy. I was required to submit my plan for these to school administration every year. However, I found it much more practical and human to teach these Four Practices and not teach a list of rules to my students.

Teaching students virtues rather than rules can have a life-changing effect on students and your program. I encourage you to try it, despite whatever difficulties you may face in your particular school and student population. You will be arming your students with ideals they can negotiate their lives with, rather than dictating a set of rules with which to get through their classes with you.

I try to live these practices myself. They are not just an arbitrary set of things I think other people ought to do. I truly believe that if everybody practiced these, it would make for a better world.

Here follows the Four Practices, as laid out in my syllabi from the last several years I taught at Nashville School of the Arts:

Four Practices

These are behavioral guidelines that help all of us in our interactions with others. This includes teachers and students alike. Students are expected to strive to practice these in their interactions with the teacher and with each other.

Mutual Respect         

I will treat others with respect at all times and can expect to be treated with respect by others, at all times. ‘Mutual Respect’ is sometimes described as the ‘Ethic of Reciprocity’ or ‘Golden Rule’.

Attentive Listening             

When another is speaking, I listen. Listening means: not talking, not interrupting, not ignoring, and looking at as well as listening to the other. We listen with our whole selves, not just our ears.

Kindness                                                 

Kindness is how we treat ourselves, others, and our environment, every day, and goes even beyond Mutual Respect. The practical rule of application for this practice is “Appreciations and No Put-downs”. Appreciations are what we do; put-downs are what we do not do. Appreciations are things we say to or do for others that make them feel good; put-downs are things that, if said to or done to others, would not. Actions or words that are unkind are unacceptable. An interesting observation about the concept of kindness is that the idea relates etymologically to that recognition that others and I are alike or “of the same kind”.

Best Effort

In all activities and at each moment I will do my best. This applies to my work in class, my preparation for class outside of school, and my interactions with others. By doing my best at all times I can live without regret and feel that my contribution to the community is brought forth from the parts of myself that strive for the highest ideals.

Walter Bitner is a multi-instrumentalist, singer, conductor, and master teacher, and serves as director of education & community engagement at the Nashville Symphony. He writes about music and education on his blog Off the Podium at walterbitner.com.